There's no simple answer anybody can give you here. I'm a licensed
psychotherapist, so I have some validity to my thoughts here..it's more than
just the car, unless you're really spending more time out there than you
think. Ask her directly what she wants you to do. Then do it (or not). If
it's really a problem, try 2-10 sessions with a couples counselor that you
both like...no longer than that. Don't let them soak you...this speaks of
brief therapy at most.
ken shapiro
baltimore
1970 GT6+ KC81872L
----- Original Message -----
From: Bill Brewer <bbrewer@lightspeed.net>
To: <triumphs@autox.team.net>
Sent: Thursday, January 20, 2000 9:12 AM
Subject: Triumphs verse Wife
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> Hey Listers,
> This is a serious and sensitive issue.
> SWMBO (She Who Must Be Obeyed), IE my wife, has a problem with my
cars
> (two TR-3's). I get up at 0430 every morning to work on them while she and
> our three young children are still sleeping. I get 90 minutes personal
time
> every morning which is divided 50/50 between Triumphs and studying the
> Bible. I find it easy to jump out of bed at the thought of being able to
> work on the car with a hot cup of tea, unmolested.
> My kids love to ride in the TR.
> My wife thinks that it is okay sometimes.
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> I am trying to placate my wife. I do things that might help her to
join
> and enjoy my hobby. Our British car club is very wife friendly and
> essentially everyone comes with their wife. I take her with me to two
yearly
> car shows (and shopping after) and see if she likes any aspect of the
hobby.
> It turns out that she has always loved Morris Minor Woody Wagons
> (Travellers). There may be one in our garage someday.
> If my wife came home and caught me in bed with her best friend she
> would say "Well at least he wasn't working on that F***ing Triumph."
> The Triumph and airplane were both here long before the wife. Maybe
> they are the last strongholds of bachelorhood that she is trying to purge.
> Can any listers provide any usefull lessons learned and helpful
> suggestions? There could be some real nuggets of wisdom out there.
> I love my wife and am a dedicated husband and father. My wife views
the
> Triumph as the "other woman". I feel that life is too short not to drive a
> roadster.
> Thanks
> Bill Brewer
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