[Shop-talk] I need help with staining new windows

[John Mitchell]

    I'm installing replacement windows in my house and I've managed to 
mix up a batch of stain that is extremely close in color to trim thats 
there now.  My problem is that the new windows seem to take the stain 
with much more grain showing, as if the windows were more of a rough 
milled wood, with some area quite dark.  Can I mellow out the grain with 
something like sanding sealer,  or will that change the color also?   
Thanks for any advice.  John Mitchell  Shelton,  CT