[Shop-talk] relationship advice, (it's shop related, really!)

[Chris Kantarjiev]

> 0. My job is to please/care for/provide for her.
> This is an observation that pretty much colors everything else; I think 
> it's true for most (American) men I know, but I'm trying not to 
> generalize. I'm supposed to be the provider, and I'm happiest when I'm 
> making her happy. If what it takes for her to be happy is *not* 
> something I enjoy doing, then there's going to be trouble. This 
> observation colors all the rest.

I realized after I sent this that this statement is ambiguous. I should 
have prefaced it with "I'm wired to think that" ... that is, it's an 
internal expectation. I don't really know the origins - but the way
I normally act and think is consistent with that ... like it or not.

It so happens that I've run into a lot of other guys who are wired this 
way, too :-)